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Join Date: Dec, 2009 Posts: 1 Gender: Female Location: UK
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a few weeks now. At first when we met we hung out every day. Now its slowed down which I don't mind. He doesn't drive so I drive him to and from work someday so thats how we really get to see each other now b.c he is helping his friend with his car. I recently snapped at him one day dropping him off and said that I feel like I 'm a taxi and all we do is say hi and bye lately to each other.
I felt sooo bad afterwards so i called him up and apologized - today we were suppose to go to a baseball game and this morning when I dropped him off I asked him again if he was definitely coming with me and he hesitated and said that he had to finish working on his friends car. i really didn't mind bc I really didn't want to go to the game myself bc of the weather. So he called me later in the day from work and left me a quick message saying that hes not gonna make it to the game. so I called him back and he sounds so depressed and said something about people bothering him and that he will take the bus home bc he doesn't want me to be a taxi and he hung up on me - now he wont answer my calls today.
He's depressed bc he doesn't have money to get a car and he has a baby girl that he has to pay child support for and i feel like he feels like a failure - he is just very emotional. What can I do to help him? Can I help him? How can I make him cheer up?
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Join Date: Mar, 2009 Posts: 25 Gender: Male Location: Canada
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Your boyfriend seems to be very sensitive and yes, emotional. He must understand that you can also get frustrated and sometimes conversations can go out of hand. This shows that you can't really say anything to him upfront, and mend the situation later on.
On your side, you should have sat him down and told him how you feel, instead of naming names. Being called "taxi" is blunt. You should also have toned down and told him that you want more than just "hi" and "bye". Both of you need to put your acts together and discover your relationship getting to know each other during the process.
Maybe send him and email explaining your state of mind. And he must understand your plight too. Good Luck!
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